Friday, August 08, 2008
The Five-Year Mark
Five years ago today I had a biopsy. I was very surprised that my biopsy would involve taking out a golf-ball sized chunk since I thought biopsies consisted of taking a core sample with a needle. Both are true, but I didn't have a solid mass so they needed to do surgery. My biopsy was a guided wire procedure (which I will never submit to again) and I fainted while sitting at the mammogram machine. After the biopsy and after puking from the anesthesia, they let me go home.
I went to a computer training class the next day. I remember very clearly sitting in the classroom and that I had a PC in front of me and that the instructor wrote some stuff on the board. I remember that I walked to Einstein Bagel for lunch and I remember what I had to eat. I haven't the slightest idea of the content of the class, though. It was a class on cgi, which I haven't the slightest idea how to use.
The next week I had an appointment with the surgeon, who did not have the pathology results yet. I asked him if my breast (which looked very sad, bruised, and deflated) would return to a natural shape on its own, or what. He told me it would fill out on its own and to quit looking in the mirror.
A couple of days later, I got a call from the surgeon's office to set up another appointment to go over the results. It was strongly suggested that I have someone with me. Soon afterwards I got a very panicked call from my primary care physician. She was very nervous, and didn't know what to say. So she blurted out that she was so sorry that the results showed I had cancer.
I stood in my kitchen and thought, "No wonder they want somebody to come with me to see the surgeon."
"Ok," I said.
It wasn't really Ok.
Whatever happened to, "You're so young, these things are almost always nothing," or "3 out of 4 times it turns out to be harmless"? By the time I got to my biopsy, it was "You have a 90% chance of being totally fine."
My mom took me to the appointment. Dr. Barbi had a box of tissues, many explanatory brochures and pictures, as well as sample drains to show me what would be involved to care for the wounds. I sat there dully, listening to him say how lucky it was that this was caught early. When it's caught early, treatment is very successful.
I had a tiny bit of microinvasion. Some cells were beginning to escape the confines of the ducts, but he was satisfied that this was still extremely early. I needed to coordinate with a plastic surgeon, and there were two that he typically worked with. I called the first name on the list and then had surgery in November.
Tiny cells just starting to bust out.
Diagnosis in August, surgery in November. Was that too long? No, I was assured. Plus, I opted to do chemotherapy which was sure to take care of any pesky floating cancer cells. 98% success rate for the type of cancer I had.
I "sailed" through treatment. I was called a "trooper." Success!
And technically, I am a "success." It's one of the happier statistics that I can say I'm still alive five years after treatment. I had always assumed that this meant being disease free five years later, but it does not.
I kind of hoped for more.
I certainly didn't hope for a broken, mangled hip. I didn't hope for an enlarged spleen and ascites from a damaged liver. I didn't hope for tumors in my brain. I didn't hope for multiple hospitalizations both from the disease itself and secondary infections.
The fact that I feel reasonably well, although somewhat wimpy and water-logged is amazing, but I still carry around anger about what I perceive as the "lies" that I was told about this condition. I still wonder about the gap between diagnosis and treatment. I wonder about the lack of follow-up and certainty on the part of my doctors that my early-stage cancer was treated with spectacular success, which resulted in months of inappropriately treated agony.
And I wonder why the emphasis on "early detection" is more evident than research for treatment of people who are still alive after five years, but waiting for a cure.
I went to a computer training class the next day. I remember very clearly sitting in the classroom and that I had a PC in front of me and that the instructor wrote some stuff on the board. I remember that I walked to Einstein Bagel for lunch and I remember what I had to eat. I haven't the slightest idea of the content of the class, though. It was a class on cgi, which I haven't the slightest idea how to use.
The next week I had an appointment with the surgeon, who did not have the pathology results yet. I asked him if my breast (which looked very sad, bruised, and deflated) would return to a natural shape on its own, or what. He told me it would fill out on its own and to quit looking in the mirror.
A couple of days later, I got a call from the surgeon's office to set up another appointment to go over the results. It was strongly suggested that I have someone with me. Soon afterwards I got a very panicked call from my primary care physician. She was very nervous, and didn't know what to say. So she blurted out that she was so sorry that the results showed I had cancer.
I stood in my kitchen and thought, "No wonder they want somebody to come with me to see the surgeon."
"Ok," I said.
It wasn't really Ok.
Whatever happened to, "You're so young, these things are almost always nothing," or "3 out of 4 times it turns out to be harmless"? By the time I got to my biopsy, it was "You have a 90% chance of being totally fine."
My mom took me to the appointment. Dr. Barbi had a box of tissues, many explanatory brochures and pictures, as well as sample drains to show me what would be involved to care for the wounds. I sat there dully, listening to him say how lucky it was that this was caught early. When it's caught early, treatment is very successful.
I had a tiny bit of microinvasion. Some cells were beginning to escape the confines of the ducts, but he was satisfied that this was still extremely early. I needed to coordinate with a plastic surgeon, and there were two that he typically worked with. I called the first name on the list and then had surgery in November.
Tiny cells just starting to bust out.
Diagnosis in August, surgery in November. Was that too long? No, I was assured. Plus, I opted to do chemotherapy which was sure to take care of any pesky floating cancer cells. 98% success rate for the type of cancer I had.
I "sailed" through treatment. I was called a "trooper." Success!
And technically, I am a "success." It's one of the happier statistics that I can say I'm still alive five years after treatment. I had always assumed that this meant being disease free five years later, but it does not.
I kind of hoped for more.
I certainly didn't hope for a broken, mangled hip. I didn't hope for an enlarged spleen and ascites from a damaged liver. I didn't hope for tumors in my brain. I didn't hope for multiple hospitalizations both from the disease itself and secondary infections.
The fact that I feel reasonably well, although somewhat wimpy and water-logged is amazing, but I still carry around anger about what I perceive as the "lies" that I was told about this condition. I still wonder about the gap between diagnosis and treatment. I wonder about the lack of follow-up and certainty on the part of my doctors that my early-stage cancer was treated with spectacular success, which resulted in months of inappropriately treated agony.
And I wonder why the emphasis on "early detection" is more evident than research for treatment of people who are still alive after five years, but waiting for a cure.
Labels: ascites, biopsy, chemo, DCIS, Dr. Barbi, hip, hospital, liver, mammogram, mom, spleen, surgery
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Anniversary!
For a while I've been marking cancerversaries. November 5: my surgery date. November 3: second bone scan and confirmation of metastatic disease. December: hospital stay. I don't think I will be able to forget and keep from feeling unease when late fall rolls around again, but a new marker of passing time is coming up.
February 25 will be Brian and my first wedding anniversary. I confess that when we got married, I was not entirely convinced that I would be seeing an anniversary, but I am thrilled and relieved to comment that my notion of impending doom was silly and that we will be seeing many more anniversaries.
February 14 will be my first Valentine's Day as a married person. April 13 is the anniversary of our first date (at La Shish...Brian rode his Harley for optimum impact). Spring is considered to be a time of renewal and rebirth. Usually this is represented by bunnies, tulips, and Cadbury eggs. I represent it by throwing off the shackles of my wheelchair, walker, and Fentanyl patches, and by celebrating what is good instead of being mired in what's miserable.
February 25 will be Brian and my first wedding anniversary. I confess that when we got married, I was not entirely convinced that I would be seeing an anniversary, but I am thrilled and relieved to comment that my notion of impending doom was silly and that we will be seeing many more anniversaries.
February 14 will be my first Valentine's Day as a married person. April 13 is the anniversary of our first date (at La Shish...Brian rode his Harley for optimum impact). Spring is considered to be a time of renewal and rebirth. Usually this is represented by bunnies, tulips, and Cadbury eggs. I represent it by throwing off the shackles of my wheelchair, walker, and Fentanyl patches, and by celebrating what is good instead of being mired in what's miserable.
Labels: anniversary, bone scan, Brian, cancerversary, fentanyl, hospital, metastasis, motorcycle, surgery, walker, wedding, wheelchair
Tuesday, May 16, 2006
Well, f#$%.
My day lasted considerably longer than I wanted to and took a radically unexpected turn. I got to the Radiology department at 9:06 a.m. (only six minutes late), and got prepared to have a port installed to make the monthly infusions more bearable. I had anxiety about the port placement. Where would it be? Would it be very painful and awful? What would it be like afterwards? I was assured that the procedure would go smoothly, that people tend to not suffer much discomfort during the placement, and that I could discuss where it would be placed with the person doing the procedure and things would turn out ok.
I actually didn't feel much of the procedure at all. After giving me the sedative, the people in the room kept asking me questions about where I lived, and did I know about Holiday Market, and was I near the new Ikea? I remember that the local anesthetic shots stung quite a bit, and then I don't remember anything else until being wheeled into recovery. This was several hours later than expected, since there were two people who needed emergency procedures before I was even able to go in. So my mom had lunch while I was out of commission, and I had to get dressed and get to my other appointments. There was a wheelchair for me. I got in the wheelchair (which got us special privileges at Wendy's in the hospital) and had my first food of the day: nuggets and a small frosty. I looked at the tiny cup dolefully.
"If I had known the small was going to be that small, I would have opted for a medium."
Then I went to make my next appointment; the infusion that was scheduled at 2. I had totally missed my appointment with Dr. Hayes, but could make this one. As I was getting weighed in, I heard people in the waiting area calling a name I'm hardly used to: "Janet Elkins? Janet ELkins! Janet ELKINS?" I identified myself, and it turns out it was highly important to see the doctor before going in to have the infusion. There was a delay there as the four people at the check in desk neatly failed to help the line of people waiting and depended instead on the trainee being helped to do it. Every conversational remark she made to somebody ahead of me I begrudged. How dare she take time to trade pleasantries when there are people waiting? Grrrr...
Finally I got in to the docor's office and waited. And waited. And waited. My mom called Brian, who then took over the job of waiting with me. And we waited. Finally, Lita came in and had news to report which made it clear why seeing the doctor before going in to the infusion would be important. "While it certainly did at first," she said, "it looks like for whatever reason the hormonal treatment isn't working anymore." We would have to switch to another therapy. So today I started chemotherapy for the second time, which I have already prayed in this blog I would never have to do again, god willing.
God is apparently not very willing.
I finally got home at 10 p.m. Brian is eating ice cream. I'm typing in my blog with a very bruised arm covered with green...antiseptic, I think it is. My face is puffy from something. A side effect of the infusions? I didn't start weeping until after my left eye was already partially swollen shut so I don't know what's going on there.
My day was very long and this was an unpleasant surprise.
I actually didn't feel much of the procedure at all. After giving me the sedative, the people in the room kept asking me questions about where I lived, and did I know about Holiday Market, and was I near the new Ikea? I remember that the local anesthetic shots stung quite a bit, and then I don't remember anything else until being wheeled into recovery. This was several hours later than expected, since there were two people who needed emergency procedures before I was even able to go in. So my mom had lunch while I was out of commission, and I had to get dressed and get to my other appointments. There was a wheelchair for me. I got in the wheelchair (which got us special privileges at Wendy's in the hospital) and had my first food of the day: nuggets and a small frosty. I looked at the tiny cup dolefully.
"If I had known the small was going to be that small, I would have opted for a medium."
Then I went to make my next appointment; the infusion that was scheduled at 2. I had totally missed my appointment with Dr. Hayes, but could make this one. As I was getting weighed in, I heard people in the waiting area calling a name I'm hardly used to: "Janet Elkins? Janet ELkins! Janet ELKINS?" I identified myself, and it turns out it was highly important to see the doctor before going in to have the infusion. There was a delay there as the four people at the check in desk neatly failed to help the line of people waiting and depended instead on the trainee being helped to do it. Every conversational remark she made to somebody ahead of me I begrudged. How dare she take time to trade pleasantries when there are people waiting? Grrrr...
Finally I got in to the docor's office and waited. And waited. And waited. My mom called Brian, who then took over the job of waiting with me. And we waited. Finally, Lita came in and had news to report which made it clear why seeing the doctor before going in to the infusion would be important. "While it certainly did at first," she said, "it looks like for whatever reason the hormonal treatment isn't working anymore." We would have to switch to another therapy. So today I started chemotherapy for the second time, which I have already prayed in this blog I would never have to do again, god willing.
God is apparently not very willing.
I finally got home at 10 p.m. Brian is eating ice cream. I'm typing in my blog with a very bruised arm covered with green...antiseptic, I think it is. My face is puffy from something. A side effect of the infusions? I didn't start weeping until after my left eye was already partially swollen shut so I don't know what's going on there.
My day was very long and this was an unpleasant surprise.
Labels: Brian, chemo, Dr. Hayes, hormone therapy, infusion, Lita, mom, port, surgery
